Oral Sex – The Most Private and Personal Encounter Possible

Apparently many parents do not agree that children should be taught effective sex education. This is extremely sad considering that about 800,000 children in the US each year chance ruining their beautiful lives because of an unplanned pregnancy. About 92% of the estimated 1.3 million abortions in the US each year are the result of unintended pregnancy.

Oral sex is real sex and offers complete sexual satisfaction. It preserves male or female virginity, because it is not sexual intercourse. Like anal sex and mutual masturbation, non-penetrative oral sex can leave the hymen intact.

It does carry a potential risk of pregnancy if both partners don’t exercise caution to prevent pregnancy. Take care to insure that your fingers, hands, and other body parts don’t accidentally carry any ejaculated semen/sperm smears in contact with the vaginal area (even indirectly).

Yes, STD s can be transmitted through oral sex. The risks from infections from chlamydia, gonorrhea, HP V, herpes, hepatitis and HIV is far less than from vaginal or anal sex.

There is an increased risk of STD transmission if either partner has wounds or open sores on their genitals or wounds or open sores in their mouth; or bleeding gums.

It’s not surprising that there are many words, names, or phrases to describe oral sex. Perhaps you have heard some of the following: Cunnilingus, giving head, head job, muff diving, eating out, blow job, giving lip, going down on, lolly-gagging and playing the skin flute.

Most couples in love find the moment to be alone and to explore each other and experiment with each other. This is the most personal act two people can experience.

Sincerity, honesty, and secrecy are paramount. Equally important is total cleanness. This begins long before you get to the intimate spots. Every item of clothing and every spot on the body needs to be spotless and odorless. No one can ever be too clean. Insure that both heads of hair are clean and smell fresh. The teeth must be clean and the breath fresh. Finger nails need to be short and clean. Partners need to smell and taste delicious to the each other. Both must wash with soap; not just water. A douche is welcomed.

Try to know the human body. Men and women have different needs and respond differently. Kiss each other all over. Go slow and steady. Use feeling. Have an informal atmosphere and close connection. Always show respect, praise, gratitude, admiration and approval.

Quick tongue flicks against the clitoris can be irritating. Generally, women prefer slow receptive motion and firm pressure. Insure sufficient foreplay. Remember that the clitoris extends deep inside a woman’s body. Suck the clitoris while tonguing. Use your hands during oral sex… touch, touch, touch. Words are important. Naturally “I love you” is important… try a little dirty talk too.

Talk, go slow, shower together, sip some champagne during oral sex, use a bit of non-toxic, edible lubricant on each other before oral. Never totally dismiss the assistance of a gentle vibrator and there is a very wide selection to choose from.

Porn pictures or videos might be a plus if both feel comfortable with porn.

Both partners need to stimulate the five senses of sight, smell, touch, hearing, and taste for each other. Try candle light and a sexy nightgown. Try incense, scented candles, cologne, and a nice shower with soap. Try caressing and massaging each other, using oils and creams. Try soft music. Try a candlelit meal; then enjoy food (like whip cream) in your love making.

In one survey about 40% of the readers rated oral sex as the sexual interest that they would most prefer to have from their partner. You can prepare your partner and self for oral sex by first watching a sex movie. Improve sex pleasure by using gel. Using an oral vibrator as foreplay with her clitoris and G spot in conjunction with the tongue will greatly increase her enjoyment.

You must love to do oral; it can’t just be a task. Foreplay is just plain smart… and fun. Insure adequate lubrication. Use a pillow. Never allow you sex to become routine in a certain position.

Practice to make your oral sex skill professional and satisfying.

Privacy is a necessity. Never allow interruptions form anyone. Unplug the phone and door bell.

Always experiment with each other. Surprises are the key to your enjoyment. Just always relax, let go and totally enjoy every minute of oral. Motions alone are not enough. Find a good position that is best for the feel. Try a variable. Know your partner’s special spots. Watch your partner’s expressions and sounds. Ask your partner to tell you his or her desires and preferences, so you can properly adjust your rhythm, pressure and speed.

Try to believe that oral sex is not to get a person ‘off’. It is about having fun with your partner and the genitals; giving pleasure to each other and bringing sensations that you might not get during sexual intercourse. Just have fun and enjoy oral sex to the fullest.

Oral is the time for ultimate satisfaction. Don’t be shy. Ask outright for what you want. Don’t assume anything. Just ask, “Do you want to go down on me?”

Frustration is painful; especially for a woman. Don’t hesitate to buy a book or video for you and your partner. If necessary come out and ask him to see a doctor or sex specialist, because you are worried that he may need vitamins etc.

Yes, oral sex is definitely the ultimate sex for pure sexual enjoyment.

The Pyramid Of Sport – From Sex To Superconsciousness

Man’s evolutionary physical, psycho/emotional, spiritual journey

Lies in the symbolism of our favorite sports

At the beginning – hunker down, bunker-down football

Through the winds of basketball

Into the waiting game of baseball

And the composure and agility of tennis

To the preservation of energy in golf

To the spirit itself

The big five American sports

Do you have the courage and stamina and insight to travel the path?

From sex to super consciousness

Perhaps it is valuable to have a deeper look at some of our favorite American sports, and the attitudes that support and bind them. We, as a people, give over so much of our psychological and financial energy to sustain them that sometimes a larger perspective can bring us the clarity
we need to see what is actually transpiring. Without being judgmental, but still looking at Sport with directness and understanding, it helps to go behind the obvious hoop-la of the spectacle, and attempt to seek out the higher spiritual truths, which seem at first glance to be concealed, but actually are right in front of our eyes. Even if there are those among us who have nothing whatsoever to do with sporting events – still you give their tacit support also. We all do. There is scarcely a product that you can purchase, nor an idea or attitude in the mass-market that is not somehow connected directly or indirectly to the promotion of sport – from clothing to electronics to food and drink and sex and cars – basically everything. You buy a soda. You contribute. You buy a Mazda. You contribute. All of us are contributors to Sport in one-way or another

So let us begin. If you will, picture a pyramid, and place at the base of the structure the great American sport – Football – the contact sport – the sexual sport. The roar of the male heard throughout the millennia. The quarterback takes the testicle- shaped ball from near the sexual organs of the Center, who is himself bent over clutching the ball. Oh yeah! The scantly clad, leggy cheerleaders bounce their pompoms, and cheer their boys. The males respond with loud guttural caveman-like sounds and thump their chests so the competition can begin. Lots of hands on contact, attack the left side, grunting and groaning, penetrating the line, grabbing the ball, hard tackles, bodies knocking together, throwing a pass, piling on, pats on the rump, wild emotional swings as the boys try to rise to the occasion and Score – badabing badabang badaboom. The booze flows; the crowd roars, the band blares.

Football is played on a rectangular shaped field called a gridiron, which if you looked at it vertically, resembles the bars in a jail – made to confine as well as define the limits of the game. It’s clock ticks off in four tough-nosed quarters. Hard time served. Not a kind, intimate, one on one strength- type sport; football is all male domination baby – rough and ready; battle hardened warriors; in your face mask, organized violence with penalties, testosterone Tarzans in uniforms. It’s physical, it’s loud, it’s arousing, it’s aggressive, It’s undaunted by violence or injuries. It’s the males’ primitive intelligence being displayed. It’s for the glory man, for the adulation and the raw emotion.

It represents the beginnings of the male sexual energy coming alive, and needing to be cheered on by the anonymous crowd and the allure of the dancing female. If you think not, try football without the raucous crowds, or better yet imagine it minus the cheerleaders. It many ways football is an extension of the unconscious male bonding process started in the adolescent years, and needs to be applauded and encouraged. Males bond with themselves first, before they are capable with connecting with the opposite sex. They have to. It is their way – the only way they know.

It’s called the sexual contact sport, because that is what it is. In the beginning there’s sex, at the end not so much. No need to be shy away from it. Just look directly at the symbolism behind the play. It represents the eternal dance of the males performing their bonding ritual to show off their stuff. Only in our time it is played out in the form of a massive physical and digital spectacle sport. Looked at another way it is also easy to see, if you follow the basic rules of engineering, that you need the substance of rock hard concrete to build a strong structure. You need that type of strength in the foundation. You need those guys roaring, and thumping, and pumping. It’s the base of the pyramid not the top. Strength is a must here. Not necessarily smarts. You need those guys on the line. It’s male psychology that’s all. The mythic King Kong attitude is required on the gridiron, even if it is caged or perhaps better put – only if it is caged. Society would not stand for that energy roaring about and knocking over any of it’s other carefully constructed institutions.

Football kicks off in September, and like sex itself, its mighty energy is spent in sixteen short, grunting games. Football – the active force; the beginning, but let’s not get stuck there, ’cause it’s not the end. The energy stirs into life at this completely American game placed squarely at the bottom of the sport pyramid. Positive traits: discipline, hard work – emphasis on hard as in hard muscles, and work, as in macho pumping iron man; team temperament – as in the support for your side of the turf with unflinching loyalty, confidence building – as in getting your ego stroked, as in strutting your mojo.

If football is fraught with stops and starts, setbacks, injuries, and spent energy, basketball is played in eighty plus games to a flow. It is stilled played in timed quarters – back and forth across the rectangle-shaped court, but in this game much of the skill is in not coming in contact with the other players. If played correctly it can be, and in fact is one of the most harmonious and rhythmic games of the five. Basketball is the wind sport. From the grunting and groaning of the lower body, to the breath of the lungs – the chamber that holds the heart, and pushes words through the throat center.

Here we leave the thrusting hips and legs of the football giants in favor of the more agile, sprint legs of the lighter dancers on the hardwood court. Jumping, passing, running, turning, shooting, the team choreographs itself to score. Then to defend – hands waving, eyes darting, blocking, quickness, aware. Instead of the hunker-down bunker-down mentality of football, more of an open intuitive finesse approach. The breath of life is not so much grunting, as it is refining itself, not so much yelling at the opponent as lungs working hard to catch the rhythm of the game. Wind endurance is key in this game. The concept of responsibility within a team is still very important. Cheerleaders -introduced only decades ago at the professional level – seem to be still needed at this stage – those legs, and lips and hips, and pompoms jumping and cheering. The energy of the heart and lungs is still connected to the lower emotional center. Oh these comforting adolescent props are still considered necessary, even on this plane. Positive traits: refinement of skills, speed plus agility, intuitively going with the flow.

As you ascend the pyramid the time restrictions as well as the rectangular shaped constrictions of the first two arenas give way to the welcome and open feeling of the diamond. The diamond is the connector between the lower and the upper – the brute strength of football, and the mental composure and agility of tennis. Baseball is the patient waiting game. Not so much grunting and wind of the other two – but more of that space between the breaths. That gap – that relaxed tension – the holding – the waiting – for the pitch, for the swing, for the crack of the bat. Then the hit – that explosion into life – movement – the ball dancing across the field – players moving in their positions – the mental and physical come together

Individual responsibility, important in all the sports, is even more accentuated at this level. Be with the team, but take your turn alone at the plate. It all counts in baseball: physical prowess, mental stability, silent communications, and individual accountability. Eye on the ball, sacrifice fly. Cheerleaders are no longer needed at this stage, minimal physical contact, not so much flowing wind as burst of life – hand signals instead of words. Gone is the wildness and spent energy of football. The baseball season last six months and over a hundred and sixty games. It is perhaps the most esoteric social sport. The singular goal after running away from home, and being stranded on the base pads with the opposite team (the enemy) all around, is to have enough skill and savvy, strength, determination, and insight, plus a little help from a friend and a strong dose of good fortune left to make your way back home. ‘Cause, baby, in this game no points are put on the board till you come home – America’s pastime – the connecting sport – Baseball.

From the many to the few – from the pounding strength of football, into the flowing breath of basketball, and through the waiting game of baseball – through all the lessons of the past, the obstacles and challenges; the tests needed to be given and learned, understood and overcome; from these many arms and legs working- out and flailing about; from the constant pressure to perform, from pomp and circumstance to just plain circumstance, from the glory and adulation comes the birth of the Two – Tennis.

Symbolically tennis represents the eternal yin and yang – the pair – the mythical Adam and Eve; the original split, the original coming together. To go this distance you can understand how much physical, psychological and spiritual effort it takes. You can’t run out of gas to get this far. The final goal is clearly within reach. If you haven’t blown it all on sex, booze and rock and roll, or on wild emotional roller coaster rides, or have not gotten lost in the din of mass media confusion – if you have successfully negotiated your way this far, and still have enough of your original sane energy left, then you have prepared well, because there is a big psychological shift here.

You are now composed, conditioned and ready to stand alone for the first time. You have gathered enough strength and poise and power to confidently place yourself on the court, upright and dressed in white with singular focus and intention, and challenge your adversary face to face – one on one; directly. No team support here – no cheerleaders – no physical contact – no one to help, no social contract or responsibilities, no time restrictions. You have risen above the fray, and are now completely trusted and disciplined, and capable. You have been taught by the other sports; discipline, hard work, stamina, speed, mental agility, and patience. Tennis is the game of two – relationships on the higher level – body, mind, focus, self-reliance. From the brute strength at the base of the pyramid to the supple conditioning near the top – the Two come to play. Rare indeed it is to find someone so accomplished and adept as to climb out of lustful sex and aggression into the higher realms of love, compassion, trust and integrity. Tennis – transforming, absolutely scary; where you stand alone ready to meet your mirror opposite.

Finally, at the top of the pyramid is Golf. The yoga of sport, where strength and practice have been preserved for the real test – the union with your true Self. Here we have learned from the grosser material elements of the gridiron and have passed all the tests along the way. As you are at the top, you understand the true meaning and intensity of the testing process – raw metal turned into fined, honed steel. Where the fool and the wise man have met in the lower arenas, and the fool has governed much of the time, now only the wise man has control of the reins. Great insight, and self-examination are what is called for at this level. The inner is reflected in what you do, and who you are. It is here that you face yourself – not the crowd on the field or in the stands, or the person across the court, or any other person for that matter – only you. If you have gotten this far, you possess that steeled steadiness and courage to find out who you really are.

In golf there are no ‘in your face’ rivals or hunker-down attitudes, no boundaries, no physical contact, no rah rah sis cum bah, no signals, no noise, no violence, no rock and roll, no huge stadiums, no boisterous intoxicated crowds, no right or wrong way, no uniforms, nothing – only the One. You. The subtleties of yin and yang have finally been mastered, and individual responsibility for one’s actions becomes total. After all who is it that got you into that sand trap anyway? Spiritually and symbolically at this stage all is lost and everything is gained. The ball now becomes an extension of your mind, of your skill, of life’s journey itself. In golf, the lessons of the others are directed inward toward the real you. It is here that your inner skills are near perfection – self-awareness, waiting in between breaths, centeredness, fearlessness, singular focus, and courage to look inward. The mirror is gazing upon itself – master golf – master your mind. Quiet the chatter. Silence the chaos Find the real you.

Get off the pyramid. If you have made it this far, congratulations, you have completed the journey from sex to super-consciousness. All wrapped up in sport.

The inner life of sport is like society itself. At the base – concrete laws – delineated, defined, confined, crime and punishment, political power plays, military might, survival of the fittest. At the basketball level – quick response is needed – the heart of the matter – speech – the power of the word. At the baseball stage you find the connection between thinking, feeling and willing – social mores, political regulations, justice plus the deeper spiritual truths, compassion, goodness, and love thy neighbor. Tennis is intimacy, trust, and personal integrity at the high level, communities trying to be good and do good on the social level, and the two party system on the national level. At the top of the pyramid is golf, which is anything but the dogma and regulations of church or temple, or synagogue. It is the spirit itself – alive, immediate, in the moment. To reach golf – to reach the true Spirit – you have to be willing to drop all the false masks and pseudo identities which family and society have bestowed, and go beyond the crowd of facade masks to find your own first, true and only identity – ever present, always fresh – just beyond the mind stuff.

From the bottom to the top, all of Sport has its long-standing inner challenges. Its unseen teachings are not promoted – or even known – by the owners, players or the media, so they still remain little understood and yet to be purified, but they are there nonetheless and waiting to be learned. Naturally, because of this lack of understanding, people get stuck at one level or the other – usually at the lower – and fail to see each stage as only a growth phase and not a permanent location on which to place ones energies. So, in our society, we frequently see many 45 year old 16 year old’s, and many of our leaders are stuck in football, when what is needed is perhaps baseball consciousness, or maybe even tennis, or a combination. In our current culture there is no mechanism on how to grow up and mature as a human being. Much of the time you, unfortunately cannot trust the society’s ways. You will only get led astray. For the society, as we know it, certainly does not understand the way.

But we should all remember that what is seen and touched on the exterior is just a reflection. This outer form is the garment for the inner testing process. Stadiums, helmets, pads, uniforms, bats, balls, rackets and clubs only provide the venue for the spiritual energy to work. Obstacles and pit falls that could have been removed long ago still remain. But the underlining spiritual current is still the same – undaunted, unchanged, eternal and waiting to be discovered. Why get trapped? Progressing through each segment is so much easier than going ’round in circles, and getting stuck in the same old ditch – over and over and over, like a broken record. If we make a little effort, we might actually get somewhere by completing the journey.

Experiences That Are Sweeter Than Sex and Pornography

Gaining freedom after days, weeks, months or years of incarceration: If you think freedom is cheap and unimportant please rethink. Some prisoners can pay anything to come out of detention centers. When you are locked-up, your top priority is freedom and the taste for sex dies naturally. Maybe, the prisoner’s jail term is seven years and he gains freedom within one year, which type of sex will give him the type of joy he will feel. Prisoners that have sex drives are those that are comfortable with the prison condition or those that are used to confinement. Be as it may, no sex can taste better than the prison warden opening the prison gate and tell to go home. The sweetest word in prison is freedom and not sex. The thrill of freedom cannot be compared to the skeletal pleasure of sex. The agony of being held hostage by kidnappers is immeasurable. Therefore, the joy of gaining freedom after staying with persons that could kill their hostage anytime can never be measured with the pleasure of sex.

Being vindicated from a crime you did not commit after several attempts to prove your innocence: It is only those that have tasted the pains of being wrongfully accused of committing a crime that knows the sweetness of being vindicated. I have seen guys that have been wrongly accused of raping under aged girls. The burden of the false accusation will automatically kill the drive for sex. Let’s say a happily married father of children is wrongfully accused of raping a ten year old girl. Possibly, he might be well respected in his religious and career circle. The result might be threat of divorce from his wife, disrespect from his children, and sack from work as well as excommunication in place of worship. This man’s exoneration is far more pleasurable than sexual intercourse. I have weigh elation of persons vindicated from crimes they were incorrectly accused of and discovered that it beats sex fun.

Easing yourself after being pressed for a long time: I have once been in a bus travelling from Imo State to Rivers State in Nigeria. The journey will take about two hours. Immediately the bus took off, I became very pressed, it was clear that I must visit the toilet to poo immediately. I thought I could endure it until we get to Port Harcourt since it was already 9pm and no driver will stop at the road side to enable me defecate for the fear of armed robbers. From that moment I lost my peace. I was uncomfortable about everything. I felt like sitting down, standing up, moving left and right all at the same time. The night was cold but I was sweating confusedly. At a point the waste was almost coming out of my anus, I almost cried. At this point, not even the most beautiful girl in the world, together with her counterparts in all the continent of the world would arouse my sexual urge. All I wanted was to be free and avoid the embarrassment of soiling myself. We got to the motor part and I immediately rushed to the toilet leaving all my belongings in the bus. The way I felt as I was defecating, no sexual intercourse can be delightful than that.

Meeting an old close friend after several years of losing contact: You cannot measure the amount of joy you feel when you meet an old time or a childhood friend. The careless shout, the scream, the hug and kiss are proofs of the pleasure of meeting an old friend. Maybe you are now forty years old and your very close pal when you are five just surfaced after about thirty five years of loss of contact, the pleasure cannot be compared with sex. You will sit with the friend, call yourselves old nicknames, tell life’s stories and before you comprehend you will spend hours with him unconsciously.

Succeeding in an examination after several attempts: Consider the pains of paying a fresh tuition and examination fee, the agony of failing after several day and night readings, and the shame of being mocked and the disappointment of seeing your classmates move to higher class while you repeat. All these and more will make anyone celebrate success in a particular examination after several attempts to pass. You might not understand what I am saying until you have failed a particular examination for six times and finally overcomes it at the seventh time.

Your team winning a match that you thought it was impossible to win: It was in the 1996 Olympic Games and no African country has ever won gold in football. In one of the semi-final matches Nigeria was playing against Brazil and the score was 3:1 in favour of Brazil. Everyone including me felt the match was over until Nwankwo Kanu scored both the equalizer and the winning goals respectively. That night I saw Nigerian run out of their houses into the street starkly naked. I saw very responsible men carrying their wives cooking pots, washing bowls, mortar, etc. on their heads and running in the street. Some laid down on the highway regardless of series of cars on the road driven by joy inflicted mad drivers. Which kind of sex can make a man feel this way?

Getting a job after several years of unemployment: Receiving an email informing you to resume work the next day after several years of job hunting is pleasurable than sex.

Another test conducted on you shows that you do not have the incurable disease that the former medical test showed you have: Confirming that the formal results of a medical test that shows that you have an terminal sickness is incorrect is more desirable than sex. The lab scientist just discovered that he used a Leukemia patient’s blood sample to run your own test and he is kneeling before you, apologizing for his error. No kind of sex or pornography can make you feel the way you do after this confirmation.

Becoming millionaire after years of living in poverty: Poverty can be frustrating and suicidal. When an underprivileged unexpectedly turn out to be wealthy, sex pleasure cannot be compared to such happiness. Maybe, a Hundred Dollars per month salary earner just won a jackpot of Two Million Dollars; no pornography can be compared with his joy.

Peace after a long time of political, tribal or religious war in your country: Go and ask the people of Libya, Syria, South Sudan, Nigeria, Iraq, etc, what is their greatest prayer; the common answer will be peace. It is only the living that can have sex, what people in this country want is peace, therefore when they get it, it is sweeter than sex.

Knowing that your little assistance helped to save someone’s life, job or destiny: Recognizing that the Ten Dollars you gave to your neighbor paid for the drugs that saved his son’s life, identifying that the little training you offered to a man help him in getting a better job or the few advice to gave to that teenager helped him quit drugs can give a great measure of satisfaction than sex or pornography.

Being alive after you thought you will die from a sickness, accident or an attack: You are driving in a fast lane face-to-face with a truck whose break just failed. You just close your eyes, expecting the loud bang because there is no where to hide. Few seconds later you opened your eyes hoping to see heaven’s gate but discovered that you are still driving your car. The truck had crossed to the other lane and crushed more than seven cars. Which sex or pornography will make you feel the way you feel when someone points a gun at you head and you hear a gunshot sound only discovered that the police just shot your attacker from behind?

Getting commendation and recommendation from your employer after everyone around thought you were incompetent: Praise from an employer that has never seen anything good about you can be far better than sex. Perhaps, you have been tagged the black sheep of the organization and there are even plans of sacking you. But, your employer comes up one day and gives you an award as the best staff of the month and a promotion letter.

Accomplishing a task you thought was too big for you to do: Completing a mission that you and most people feel is impossible generates greater pleasure than sex. Most inventors have little or no regard for sex because their discoveries satisfy them. The happiness in doing great things overshadows the urge or pleasure of sex and pornography.

Being delivered of a baby after months of pregnancy. The discomfort, pain and sleepless nights of pregnancy are indescribable. The fear of complications or death during pregnancy is also scary. The anxiousness to see your offspring is tempting. The sought after prestige and honor of fatherhood is enticing. Therefore, no sexual pleasure can beat the first cry of a new born baby. That single cry is worth more than the goldmines of South Africa, No orgasm can defeat the sweetness of that cry.